The Online Empath

The Online Empath

One of the hardest things for me is condolences. It is not because there is nothing I could write; is because I sense that no matter what I write it will not have the desired effect on the other person and therefore nothing I could write passes the online empath test.

I know how they will feel when they read whatever I’ve written and delete and retype. Then try again. Eventually I give up. It is difficult because I want to reassure and make them feel better but that is impossible because nothing I write can achieve that. In these situations the only thing to do, is be there for that person so they have an open forum to vent and cry without judgement. But how do you communicate that in writing? “I’m sorry that happened and I’m there for you?”

Empathy is considered a standard human emotion, some have more or less. Few none. In my case it is more a superpower. It is a difficult thing to live with and only as I crossed into my 30s did I learn to control it. Perhaps I should explain what all of this is and how it works.

Empathy for me is feeling another person’s deepest emotions without any real effort. It is subconscious and many empaths spend portions of their life thinking they are too emotional. Cry at the drop of a hat. Get angry too fast. Called weak.

Until the day you realize that it isn’t you who is sad, hurt, or angry. It is someone around you. All you are doing is absorbing their emotion and channeling it. Unless you make yourself aware of this occurrence you will never control it. Or prevent it.

In general I do not like people because they make me feel emotions that are not mine and shielding myself from that is exhausting. I have a threshold and once that is met I cannot cope and differentiate between my emotions and those of others. So I start acting out with theirs.

With empathy I also have a good sense for who people are. It isn’t always the surface emotions but the hidden intent people have. Most learn this by reading body language. Perhaps I do this subconsciously but there is no doubt that within five minutes I can tell who you are as a person. Even in online socialization.

Curious about yourself? Take the 16 Pesonalities test from Meyers Briggs and comment your results below.

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About Purls HQ

About Purls HQ

I think it is time to expand my blog a little. I’ve always enjoyed writing and there is only so much one can write about a game. Especially when there are numerous websites that cover everything you need. So let’s learn about Purls HQ.

It was suggested, and I previously though of doing this, that I add references to my blog such as rss for building and items of that nature. I’m not interested in digging that deep or being responsible for staying on top of updates. This data is already out there and I’m far too busy with my career to focus on those items.

What you will get onstead, is me. Just Purls. Not just the gamer, but the wife and workaholic.

The Wife

Many of you may know that I am married and my husband plays koa with me. It’s awesome because I don’t need to worry about getting yelledat for ignoring him like many who have nongamer significant others. However in the con list is sharing a gaming budget and fights over a game because we are both fiercely competitive. So there’s that.

The Workaholic

I work 10 plus hours a day at a financial technology company. Right now I’m developing my career and setting myself up on a path to bigger and better. My title on paper is Operations Manager but technically my responsibilities exceed that.

I’m the senior knowledgebase and miracle worker. I get shit done. I work with our top clients and manage our portfolios while running Operations under our COO. I’ve been with the company seven years and started as a sales admin.

Want to Know More?

That’s just a peek. The basics. I’ll start writing more about these topics in future posts and less about the game. Why? Because if you follow my YouTube channel all my gaming life is on display and I don’t need to rehash that here.

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New Blog Content

New Blog Content

So I haven’t posted new blog content in a while and this is because I’ve been very busy.  Preparing for KVK and real-life #Work.

I started this blog as a platform for my game experience and will continue to post here.  I enjoy writing.  I started uploading videos to YouTube with the intent of embedding in my website.  What I didn’t realize is that I’d enjoy editing them and using them as my primary content.

Don’t worry, I’ll still post for every KVK – maybe not every round but at least a summary of the match-up.

There are a ton of reference sites out there with data on requirements for SH and other buildings.  Plus all the other changes and events and such.  It was suggested that I add this content to my site; however I’m honestly not interested in slaving over that (and having to stay up on updates) for a few views.

If you like my content I ask that you share your appreciation by clicking like/subscribe.  Even commenting!  While I write and post videos for myself – the process is fun – I also want to publish relevant content for those who have shown this appreciation.

So, if you have a suggestion – let me know!  Drop a comment anywhere on any of the platforms I use or meet me on Discord!  I practically live there.

❤ chat with you soon!

KOA Video Contest

KOA Video Contest

This contest made me and those in k207 very happy because I’ve been documenting KVK for some time and it will pay off with a hero for not only me but those I’ve captured. Enter the KOA Video Contest.  

I let everyone know that they are welcome to use those I’ve previously uploaded or if they want an unbranded clip to be uploaded that I’d be happy to re-edit one for them.  It is a bit of a time investment from me; however they are like family and we help each other.  Plus I’m hosting it so by default it may attract views and subscribers.  However I’m happy to email the files off or provide a download link if a user wishes to host it themselves.  Many don’t want to fuss with YouTube so it is a win-win!

I’ve titled every video for KOA Contest so it is apparent what the video is for.  It is a mix of older and newer content.  Most of it is unbranded because this isn’t about me but them.  In some – mostly older clips – my dashboard is present which ruins some of the effect.

I’ve learned a bit as I’ve published to YouTube and most important is a good video to edit.  This means uninterrupted by chat and mail and misc things we do when we play and aren’t always conscious of.   I also try to keep my dashboard off screen and even developed a branding that hides the chat box – because sometimes what we say detracts from the video.  If not I bring it up and give a showing of alliance chat as needed.

Music is most important and sometimes that can take the longest.  You have to find the right beat and sound and the music should punctuate what is on the screen.   I sometimes watch a video several times before I find the right music.  In fact I usually have to watch a clip five or more times during just the editing process.  I take out things like chat and loading screens and content that just isn’t vital to the subject.  One of my trademarks is speed – I’ll super speed a section rather than cut it out – and slow it down just before the boom.  So a three minute video may have been an hour long – which means I spent at least three to five hours editing just for that one clip.

It’s fun and as I learn more and more about the editor I use I’m able to really show my creativity.  If you watch my YouTube from oldest to newest you’ll see what I mean.

The next step is to provide voice – either as said while recording or a later voice-over.  I’ve already started playing with that.  Testing how it affects subs and likes and such.  While I do publish this for myself it is important that it is something others like to watch or else why make it public.

I’m always interested in what people think and I engage anyone who comments.  So don’t be shy, let me know if you like or dislike.  Just don’t be rude and malicious – that isn’t constructive feedback just trolling.  Trolls don’t get approved comments.

Below is the playlist for this effort.  Some have already been published and others are brand new never seen before content.  Bookmark this playlist or better yet – subscribe!

No Kill Event Mercy

No Kill Event Mercy

Kill Event Changes

A new rule was implemented in k207 to ensure we had ample troops for the event. Alliances were required to send 10% of their membership to KVK to be safe on KE. Sometimes a little healthy fear is necessary.  There is no more kill event mercy.  

To some in chaotic war kingdoms this sounds unfair; however we have had peace for a long time and this has made KE peaceful as well. This was intended to allow growth for KVK. Then the alliances started sending less and less each round. This meant the same group of people were rebuilding every event.

We rule fair and abide by the rules we implement. Every decision we make as kingdom leaders is for k207 and not for ourselves. If the opposite were true we would feed our dragons every KE. We had no intent to disable our kingdom if an alliance failed to send the required amount; however examples would be made.

The point being that you send troops for KVK and get a 300% buff to rebuild and k207 shares in the losses or fail to help and lose your troops entirely by those who bleed every KVK. If you enjoy the peace a small sacrifice is required. Or peace will end.

It was a wakeup call and everyone joined together. We received so many people that we had to boot farmers. Our usual size is less than 50 members which is just 7 main accounts and the rest farms. I have not completed the final tally but it is approximately 75 people all in.

KVK 28

We ended up with rank 4 globally and were not disappointed. It did not dissuade k133 from invading which created a 400 million power loss for k207. Instead of this being spread across 10 players it was spread among 50 and was easier to swallow by all.

As you can see sometimes rules are good to have and in the end we still had the troops to keep going and walked away victors. As I write this post, k207 and k277 are done. Only k133 remains and I don’t expect they will be allowed to gain their throne without more heat.

They poked the bears in k207 and k277 and at this point it is a matter of ego and pride. We will never meet them outside spire and firelands and this is the last time we can give them a what-for in KVK and show them that while we may be weaker we have a bigger heart and an amazing team who coordinates every detail.

I do have some amazing footage to share of KVK 27 and 28. If you have not already please subscribe to my YouTube channel. I often post content there that I do not feature on my blog.

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♡ 207

Tower Hockey

Tower Hockey

Allies

Sometimes there are things I cannot share because it may affect the rest of a match in KVK in unfavorable ways.

We were matched with k133 and k277 for KVK 26 – 28. Both proper beasts in comparison to k207. It was our hard/impossible match. Usually we lose 2 out of 3 defenses on these match ups. This time we are proud that we defended our kingdom and won the throne all three rounds. It is expected that our next match will be easy/equal. These are our invasion rounds and quite fun.

The untold truth of this match is that we allied with k277 in KVK 26. When Moe, Larry, Curly, and Shemp aka Rider, Sampson, Tornado, and Wood in k133 invaded k207 early on we gave them a fight. Then they left us, slightly wounded, and invaded k277. I immediately added k277’s strongest, Guardian, as a contact and we exchanged quick hellos.

Then he asked if we could ally. We created a room in game and in Line. It was great. K277 has a similar culture to us and out of the three kingdoms were the bigger beast – imo – this matchup. You don’t turn down that type of alliance in KVK after being manhandled by the other kingdom.

Guardian of k277 proves the point I’ve tried to make to others and slaughtered k133.

Stats > SH

It was amusing to see a sh32 murder sh35’s. He is now sh33 and as others should, he maxes out before upgrading a stronghold. He is also a decent guy and we had a lot of fun together.

KVK 27

Guardian was not on the k277 throne when KVK started. It seemed another alliance was given a chance to see what KVK was all about. We were told by Guardian that his 277 alliance which held the kingdom would not interfere with our fun in their kingdom. Were given two hours to invade for some Dragon xp before he would start their throne timer for defense.

The issue we faced was we didn’t have sufficient troops to stack everything and invade. We did not want to leave ourselves open to attacks from k133 but also wanted to have a little fun.

We sent Unicorn Police, Unicorn Porn, Cunning Stunt, and Scrubalotimus to take towers. These are just farms of our core KVK group and they often provide comedic fun to our invasions. Due to technical difficulties I only captured Scrub.

Then Game decided that he’d port over to lead a mega rally and brought his farm KK to join. I was unable to join on Purls as I was defending k207; however I sent my alt sh26 H.Q. Dew was not in a building and neither was another core player The Dude. Dew brought his alt NomNom as well.

Game started with a solo hit and that did not end well. We knew the stats but were distracted and it didn’t register until the hit was done. Just one of those things.

In the end, we had some fun and still managed to keep k207 secure. After defending we visited k133 with Guardian and played tower hockey for some time. Because we could. Because they messed with us first. They failed to do their research and lacked the experience required to lead a successful invasion. I hope they learned lessons this KVK and wish them the best on future matches.

♡ 207

Dragon Spirit Floor 35

Dragon Spirit Floor 35

Yup, so it is possible to skip Blue gear. Of course you need to have some research and runestones leveled first!  I made it to Dragon Spirit Floor 35 with green gear!

I’ll forewarn that you can’t miss the guardian on Floor 34…if you go the wrong way and fight you may not have the health to beat it.

I’ve gone from Green to Purple gear twice and plan on repeating this with all my farms. Then they unlock 41 and from there I can plunder from floor 21 everytime and fill my bags.

Once I have sufficient coins I buy and level my runestones before attempting Floor 55. It’s easy if you stage it out. Especially if you are doing all of your farms at the same time.

Research and Runestones Used to unlock Floor 35: